Okay, Here is the scenario… I don’t need the scum bag references so spare me. About 2 months ago I met a girl in my volley ball league. She’s cute, so of course I flirt with her. The flirting escalates, we go for lunch, we go to Happy Hour, I am the perfect gentleman, I am her dream guy..
She of course has no idea that I have a girl friend. It is a detail that always seems to slip my mind when we’re hanging out. But in my defence, other than flirting and some borderline sexual kino, I have not done anything with her. She is way to close to my social scene to risk it. (If you’re going to cheat boys, do it outside of your social circle)
Well, I’ve come to the conclusion that if something happens between us, she has to know up front that I have a girlfriend. …I’m not planning anything but you know 
So we’re texting eachother back and forth last night and its getting damn near the point of inviting her over to break this god awful sexual tension. But I know I can’t let anything happen (and if it does she has to know I have a girlfriend)
I feel like I’ve dug myself in pretty deep… Any suggestions about breaking the news that I have a girl friend? Do I say it casually? Make a point to sit her down and confess? Fuck it… what she doesn’t know don’t hurt her?
I mean I can live without fucking her, really I can. At this point I just want to resolve this situation. I’ve been her fucking night in shining armor for 2 months and now I’ve got to crush her little heart. What’s the best way to do it?
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October 18, 2007
get her nice and horny or in other words let her chase you when you can tell she really wants it, say “sorry hun, ive got a girlfriend”. she will either be A. to horny to care B. care but do it anyways C. she cares and she doesnt go any further and you’ve broken the mood D. its a turn on for her for you to have a girlfriend.
either way, the situation gets resolved.
ps. just incase your to horny and she says she doesnt want to because of your gf make sure you plan some time with your gf soon after.
just my advice
-Rubix
October 18, 2007
In my opinion, I think the best way to do it is to, when the sexual tension is high, let her know you have a girlfriend by saying:
“You’re making me wish i was single”
or
“You’re making me feel bad that I have a girlfriend.”
If she says, “I didn’t know you have a girlfriend!” be like “I didnt tell you? My bad yeah I do.”
and if she tries to qualify her self or sees it as a competition then i guess you pretty much have her…meaning you can fuck her.
But i personally don’t know if i can cheat on anyone.. i would probably wait until i got rid of her or at least until the relationship dried out.
October 18, 2007
i was thinking just turn it around on her and say we’re friends right? Like girls do to us all the time after flirting with us. Act like i only ever wanted friendship…which will probably just make her want me more..
The tension is high.. so i pretty much have to tell her or she’ll think im gay for not makign a move already.
October 18, 2007
I would say just be honest. Tell her upfront you have a girlfriend.
If you want you can put her in the friend zone as a fall back plan, just in case anything between you and your girlfriend go south. If she’s in the friend zone, she’ll secretly still want you. Don’t tell me you’ve never wanted to be with the person that put you in their friend zone.
-Seraf
October 18, 2007
I will be the little devil on your left shoulder: fuck her Rio!!!!
October 18, 2007
Yes i like the idea of putting her in the friend zone and using her as a fall back plan later on.
Mack
I like the idea of fucking her now even better!
October 18, 2007
What does the REAL man do? You know what to do…
Tell your girl you’ve met a fun cutie she would love as a “friend”
introduce the 2 of them. they hit it off…
Bobby hits it off, 2 ways.
A real man makes this process as natural as he can. because to NOT do it would be UN-natural…
October 18, 2007
I like the way you think… I’ve been softning up my girl to the idea of a threesome by watching some good girl on girl porn…
October 19, 2007
Obviously you should fuck her - It’s mans instinct to populate the earth by fucking as many girls as possible and we should be proud of that! However, if you want to tell her I would suggest dropping it into casual conversation in the in the manner of assumption that she already knew - when she questions you, just tell her that you told her and tell her you think her heads up her ass for not listening! Just wish I could be there. On another note, things have warmed up again considerably between me and office girl, lots of kino, and trading of our deepest secrets etc. at her request. The one final hurdle as far as I can see is that we work together and she doesn’t like the idea of having a relationship with a work collegue. I know she is concerned with how people see her within the office. Any ideas on how to remove this objection from her mind?
October 19, 2007
Girls love sneaking around. This girl at work doesn’t want people thinking she’s dating a colleuge but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to date a collegue.
Just keep building the attraction and dropping hints that you would want to keep it secret too. Say things like “I hate people knowing my busiess. I can’t stand gossip” Shit like that so to let her know you’re not interested in parading her around the office.
Man the show “the office” relates so well to office envirnoments. Have the cast is fucking secretely.
October 19, 2007
Bobby,
It is a matter of framing. if you feel like you are cheating then you are. if, however, you are a guy that has GIRLFRIENDS (plural) and let her know that she can be one of your girlfriends I see no objections coming from her. in fact this will make you more desirable as multiple women are vying for your affection.
Kiss her and tell her that she can be #3. “I’m going to call you #3″ she’ll say what? You say “normally I try not to have more than 2 girlfriends at a time but….in your case I will make an exception and go to 3.
Unless you already told her that you don’t have a girlfriend….in that case your F$%^ED
rt
October 19, 2007
Some good advice there. Never told her I don’t have a girlfriend. Just avoided the situation. The problem isn’t this chick.. it’s whether or not this chick can keep this a secret.
Talking this girl into just fooling around it one thing… but she knows people I know… it could get messy.
I’m not going to lie and say I don’t cheat on my girl…. But i usually have the respect to do it with girls that are far from my social circle.
We’ll see. I’m meeting this girl for a drink tomorrow afternoon. I’ll let you all konw how it turns out.