Talking dirty to girls is something that I have struggled with for a long time. It is only now that I feel “pretty” comfortable doing it, still with some hesitancy. I am sure that this comes to some men pretty easily, but I just didn’t to me.
There I was, enjoying some great sex when I hear “Tell me how you like fu*king my pus*y”
Now don’t get me wrong, I did like fu*king her pus*sy, yet I didn’t feel compelled to actually say it to her? Then when I would say it, I felt like I didn’t use a strong enough tone of voice and sounded weird. With all this going on I actually start to loose wood…Great!
I couldn’t really understand why I was having this problem. I was confident in all other areas of my game, yet when it came to this I was on new ground. What I realized is that most of the problem had to do with me dating a different breed of woman. A woman who may not be so confident in life, but has ultimate confidence in the bedroom. Girls with more sexual experience than me in some cases…
MAN UP
These women want someone to take control, hair pulling seems to be as common a missionary these days. Spanking makes me think of booty’s, not babies and giving girls mild titty twister’s (purple nurple) is coming back.
The sexual culture is changing and you may be missing it. Women like this don’t just tell you to pull their hair and spank them, you have to know!
So how do you know?
You have to build rapport and maintain kino escalation to test the waters. ( build comfort and get her comfortable with you touching her and vice versa) Then move this forward veeeeerrrrrrryyy slowly.
Maybe start while you are talking and touch her arm, and leave it there for like 5-10 seconds. NEVER GROPE! Keep it real calm and relaxed.
Later on lean in to talk to her and use touching her leg as an effect in something you are saying. Example: Your telling some story about something and you say. “Then he grabs me and …..” When you say grabs me, grab her leg for a sec, at most until you finish your sentence, then pull away and continue with your story.
Later on (if you are still being your cool guy self and are not being creepy) you need to start looking for opportunities make a comment about her anatomy, I would go for the ass, one because it is the least confrontational and two, because I love ass! With confidence say something like, “You have a really nice looking ass, would you mind if I gave it a little smack?” MAKE SURE YOU HAVE GREAT KINO AND RAPPORT BEFORE ATTEMPTING A BOLD APPROACH LIKE THIS, IT WORKS FOR ME..THAT’S ALL i CAN SAY.
Most girls just laugh, some let me smack it on the spot and others make me work for it a little. Either way, it’s a great SOI (statement of intent) that will for sure keep you out of the friend zone.
If it does work, you may have just found you next sex tigress!
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February 25, 2008
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4qVJnhZwWY&feature=related
February 25, 2008
I can see vagina in that last image.
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February 26, 2008
LOL @ roosh, i see it too, nice pic though
im an ass man too, i like the ass soi ima use that
Teddy Bear’s last blog post..Being comfortable talking dirty
February 26, 2008
It depends on how the guy says it. Like, if he talks like he’s been practicing in front of a mirror, it becomes more funny than sexy. Also, it’s better to use original versions of ‘dirty words’ rather than the terms used in porn. Example of term variations… vagina is a medical term, p*ssy and c*nt are porn terms, and ’sweet lips’ is an endearment. See the difference?
evilwoobie’s last blog post..The Art of Kiss and Tell
February 26, 2008
Great picture to start haha
I like this, talking dirty was not a problem for me wheni was younger but as I got older i kinda let go of that… i think it has alot to do with actually enjoying who your with.
If your with someone you really enjoy you can do it no problem
but if your with a generouse 6 who your with because its all you could get… you wont feel right doing it.
Lol Woobie makes a point, anytime ive used a porn term before sex it is a DLV but during ive neevr had it be a problem.
February 26, 2008
Also wanted to add this since its over the topic
http://myspacetv.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=17651423
Talk’n Dirty
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February 26, 2008
My problem is talking too dirty. lol. No fear for me. 9/10 times I get the girl though. So it worked out well for me. Now however, Im a one woman man!
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February 26, 2008
Evilwoobie,
You have a good point with the custom dirty words. I am now comfortable with those “porn” words so its not an issue anymore as far as the lingo.
Although I did encounter a new problem, this one girl always asks me to talk to her, tell her what I like about her, with details, if I happen to stop after a few lines she asks me again.
Its one thing to talk dirty. Now I am mastering the art of having a conversation during sex. Having to answer questions results in a much higher thought process while doing the deed.
Sometimes I just want to enjoy the moment, yet I have this undeniable urge to make sure my partner is pleased.
Guess its just a catch 22..
February 26, 2008
@Mark
She’s got diva syndrome. One sure way to shut her up for a long while is to just say “you’re a goddess, I’m so lucky to be f*ckin you right now. Now allow me to just keep on worshipping your beautiful _____ .” The goddess word will seal the deal, and it’s probably gonna echo in her mind for the rest of the session. Don’t forget to moan more than usual.
When having a conversation during the thing, just answer with simple answers and more leading questions “what are YOUR views on that…?” to get her to do most of the talking. Feeling smart during sex is a heady feeling.
XD
I can view your site in IE. On to being top commentor!
evilwoobie’s last blog post..The Art of Kiss and Tell
February 26, 2008
I forgot everything I was reading because of that last image.
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February 26, 2008
Fellow Ass Spankers,
Has anyone else here read The Sex God Method?
I hate to hawk products, but the one thing that MAJORLY increased my bedroom game, no joke, was Daniel Rose’s book. I “found” a copy of it on the ‘net, read it, and had my whole sex paradigm shifted. Now I’m a total beast, and I’ll try anything that pops into my head. Dirty talk is absolutely no problem. I haven’t once had a chick tell me not to do something, and that includes pooper sex when she’s a pooper virgin.
Lance’s last blog post..10 Signs You Might Be A Complete Douchebag
February 27, 2008
This is great stuff for when I hit up a Mardi Gras party this thursday.
-Seraf
February 27, 2008
That video is so fucking cringe worthy! I absolutely pissed myself watching this. I agree with Lance - I am currently reading the sex God method which I also recommend - the talking dirty thing thing gives variety but also fits well into the theme of dominance which I think is invaluable - love just throwing my girl across the bed like a rag doll” as she puts it and fucking her a bit and then lifting her and throwing her into different positions a various intervals.
February 27, 2008
I’ve read this good article or from a forum somewhere, but can’t remember, it goes along the lines of: “Do you like that baby?!?”, “Tell me you love it!”, “ Tell me you FUCKIN’ LOVE IT!” while fucking her like in a crazy ass porno movie XD loool, The original post was too funny. But the moral of this story is to definitely take control. (In this case, giving her commands). Pulling hair, biting earlobes, or something that would make her scratch your back lol.
In terms of escalation, i really think, building good comfort, would be best to start it off.
It kinda comes natural to me..But when i do it, im not THAT serious about doing it, so i kinda lack kino. It usually takes me a while to do this so i don’t seem creepy.
One of my favourite is that “I had a dream about you” like what Bobby said in one of his podcasts, but i often will take it in to a cocky funny account, and say: “It was kinda dirty, you were lickin’ me all over and biting my ear as if i was a fresh piece of meat! Etc..” . Most preferably if u know shes attracted to you and giving you IOIs. This is my favourite, cuz it could be creative.
Another 1 that I learnt from a natural is that he loves using the word “sexual”. Even if it has nothing to do with the situation. For example: She says sump’ (a comment)
And you misinterpret it and say: “alrite.. No need to get sexual” or “ ohhh getting sexual now..” say it playfully and in a sexc tone. And say that its your NEW favourite word/catch phrase as an excuse. It doesn’t even have to be the word “sexual”, it could be “intense” or w/e. But I use it more of an anchor kinda thing.
Most importantly, I think that the frame setting must be thorough and should be built up. I’m not really sure about the dynamics, but adding breaks such as “wowww..wait..what are you doing to me?” or “Mmmm it feels so good… I’m so relaxed… No! We got to stop! This is a bad idea - we can’t have these feelings!” would make her want you MORE. – Basically its like teddy’s favourite push-pull kiss close XD.
And Lool @ Roosh gettin’ excited
Pzz
February 27, 2008
What is this “The Sex God method?” according to you lot, this seems like a good read, I’ll have a look later, unless anyone is kind enough to elaborate what this book deals with…
Pzz
February 27, 2008
Im about half way through it now - Its a gold mine in short - gives you a much better understanding of how to give a women ectasy and have her begging for more. Based largely on the principles that the phycological elements of sex are what makes a women cum - although it also provides a quide to the mechanical techniques. I cant wait to apply the info this weekend! I can email you the ebook if you want
February 27, 2008
Lool “This weekend”
Goldmine, really? Wow.
Ok, email it to me at: kev_sfdt_25[at]hotmail[dot]com
Thanks eddy!
Pzz
February 27, 2008
eddy hook me up castik61 @ yahoo . com
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February 27, 2008
Sex God Method website if you wanna read some propaganda:
http://www.sexgodmethod.com/
No need to pay the $$ if people are giving it away, but it’s actually WORTH the money. Seriously. It turbocharged my sex life.
Lance’s last blog post..10 Reasons Why Undergrad Girls Are Lame
February 27, 2008
Ill hook you guys up in the morning when I get into work - dont have on my home pc - thats how hard I work at work! But yeh definately worth the read
February 27, 2008
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February 27, 2008
“It Turbocharged my sex life”..
wow, maybe it really is worth looking into lol.
Plus with an avatar like yours Lance, i trust it cant be a scam.
February 27, 2008
… Fred was that sarcasimn or honesty… hard to say
February 27, 2008
lol i was wondering the same thing
Teddy Bear’s last blog post..Do People Tell You You’re Wasting Your Time Studying Seduction?
February 27, 2008
i was being serious.
it does sound alot like sarcasm tho,
but i actually thought his avatar was kinda cool lol.
February 28, 2008
Hey Bobby,
Out of curiosity, how is that Bootcamp coming along? Still planning one?
Recently my fellow PUAs and I threw our own bootcamp to help out a bunch of newbies.
-Seraf
February 28, 2008
Hey - I sent that through to you both - DONT REPLY OR SEND ANYTHING TO THAT EMAIL ADDRESS AS IT IS A WORK ADDRESS!
Cheers
February 28, 2008
thanks man, the quick run through i did with it, it seems pretty good
Teddy Bear’s last blog post..Do People Tell You You’re Wasting Your Time Studying Seduction?
February 28, 2008
Hey could someone please explain the meaning of this combination?
I have a girl who almost always kisses me when were out, has sex with me most weekends and texts or phones me everyday or at least replies to mine but says she doesn’t want a relationship! It cant just be meaningless sex if she is talking to me everyday and so on - I cant understand it - It seems to me that were in one but we cant call it that. Any ideas? (I do want a relationship btw)
February 28, 2008
you sure she doesn’t already have a boyfriend you don’t know about? I was fucking a girl who had a boyfriend a way at college… i didn’t find out for a couple months..
just a thought
or
you just have give her space and let her decide she wants a relationship with you.. some girls are funny, and the more you pursue the more they move away, but once you stop pursuing they’ll come to you.
February 28, 2008
I hope not - I cant do any but proceed as though she doesn’t however so for all intents and purposes we’ll assume she doesn’t. Im not pursuing her for a relationship as far as she thinks - Ive told her I dont want one either so as not to freak her out. But it just seems odd! There’s very little we dont do that would be associated with a relationship - except obviously acknowledge it as one. This is doing my fucking head in! Think im doing a decent job of playing cool but I really cant stop thinking about her! Any explanations would be more than welcome.
February 28, 2008
Eddy,
this the same girl you made out with outside the bar a few months back? the one from your office?
The trick is to really stop thinking about her.. because when you’re faking it she’ll know.. and if she knows she has you… she has all the time in the world to make up her mind.
Bobby Rio’s last blog post..Do People Tell You You’re Wasting Your Time Studying Seduction?
February 28, 2008
THe best advice i can give you “you can never be too cold” you can only scare her away by being to “into her” it is easier to win her back after being too much of a dick, then after being too nice.. i’m not saying be a dick.. i’m just saying don’t worry so much about it.. i know its hard.. but trust me.
Bobby Rio’s last blog post..Do People Tell You You’re Wasting Your Time Studying Seduction?
February 28, 2008
Yea same one lol - we’ve been fucking fairly regularly since then and she contacts me as often as I her - I am trying not to worry bout it but it bothers me more that I just dont understand it - It just seems abit strange to me. Seeing her tonight for a few drinks so hopefully gonna try out the new “sex god method” just finished it - fucking great!
February 28, 2008
By the way - the sillhouette of my avatar looks shockingly like my actually sillhouette! waz that about- you spying on me bobby?
February 28, 2008
hey eddy,, you should upload an avatar.. there is a link below the last comment to gravitar.com you can follow the steps and upload an avitar there
February 28, 2008
Eddy, thanks for the hook-up, i really appreciate it.
and towards your problem..I was about to say using the sex god method too! XD.
I have a similar problem, only that i am friend with this girl, she has a bf, but somehow i get the feeling that she keeps flirting with me and giving me IOIs from time to time… Things like these kinda messes my head up XD.
I had a quik look at the ebook, and already, i could tell that its really good. Quite a long too :D.
Thanks again.
Pzz
February 28, 2008
No problem - you may be right tho there’s a a few techniques in there that daniel rose says can make a girl fall in love with you - Ill put that to the test and let you know!
And Bobby, got my avatar but how do I add it to this site?
February 28, 2008
Off the subject, but I couldn’t resist after the other myspace video.
http://www.nbc.com/Saturday_Night_Live/uncensored.shtml
February 28, 2008
Eddy,
once you sign up with gravitar.. make sure you assing your gravitar.. then use the same email.. it should work
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February 28, 2008
lmao mike u use that yet? im really curious how it went
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February 29, 2008
Oddest thing last night - this happen to anyone else ? - Out with the girl last night and we start making out, now everytime we do this she complains the next day that her face and neck are all red coz she’s got really sensitive skin - so she thought she’d get me back by giving me lovebites! So Im sitting there trying to pull her off me cos I have to go into work today - but I couldn’t lol - I was enjoying it too much - so she going at it for about 15 minutes and I find myself going into what I can only describe as prolonged orgasmic state - I was completely paralysed! I actually found it hard to struggle back into full consiousness when she finally stopped when I stood up I realised I had actually cum! Never thought that was possible! Regret it now tho as my neck is a complete embarressment but yeah just wondering if anyone has had that?
February 29, 2008
Teddy,
That’s how I escalated that Irish girl I was telling you about.
Eddy,
Don’t be embarrassed, I can’t even count the number of times I have uncontrollably blown my load by being turned on. Contrary to belief, most girls find it a turn on ( as long as it’s not every time! ).
It would be worse if she couldn’t make you go, or it took forever, then she might think that she doesn’t turn you on and she might get self-conscious.
And just make sure to shave you face before you meet up with girls for a make out session, her face is all red cause of stubbles or some kind of facial hair.
My girls like that I make an effort to keep my face smooth, and they enjoy kissing me more, all over!
February 29, 2008
yeah ive noticed that too Mike.
i’ve never really had a full beard or anything, but before i used to shave, i’ve gotten complaints about the stubble n such. but now, they love kissing after a fresh shave lol.
March 1, 2008
i got a goate and girls like it(specialy when i go down) but yes you do have to keep everything else smooth start shaving with lotion instead of shaving gel or something like tea tree oil(thats what i use
Teddy Bear’s last blog post..Using an Opinion Opener to Initiate a Conversation
March 3, 2008
Oh I’m not remotely embarrest lol! just more amazed than anything - wasn’t aware a state like that was possible for guys - its certainly never happened to me before.
As for the stubble thing - she prefers the look of stubble on a guy so I think she’ll just have to suffer - plus I do like branding her in that way! I could just urinate on her to mark my territory I suppose but reckon she would prefer I didn’t. Anyway - one thing I have never seen adaquately addressed on this site or any other Is how to cope with a girl breaking your heart into little pieces - I have heard advice such as go and get another girl but frankly thats the last thing you want when you’ve got a bad case of oneitis - anyone have any enlightening posts to share?
March 3, 2008
about the girl who talks to you daily, boinks every week, yet doesnt want to date: i wouldnt worry. its not really that weird. this is just how girls do the “friends with benefits” thing. most girls have to feel at least a little close to you to have sex with you, keeping a guy close and boinking regularly is preferable to finding a new guy every weekend.
its pretty nice actually: you get all the benefits of dating, like regular sex and a cool guy to have fun with. but you dont have to deal with all the crap that comes with one like worrying about him cheating or commitment.
March 3, 2008
Yea but its not enough for me athena - is there any way you can think of for me to convert this into dating?
March 3, 2008
eddy, just relax and don’t force it.
If anything, you are going to have to pull back a little to create the effect you are looking for. Less is more…
If you want to really test the waters, start dating other girls. I know it’s hard to do when you like someone, but unfortunately people want what they can’t have and you have to learn how to handle it.
I still think of girls have I have lost or was never able to progress into a girlfriend, that’s just the way this stuff works.
Baby steps my friend…if she decides to date you, it’s probably going to be when you least expect it.
March 3, 2008
Most girls love it that a guy is fond of them beyond the sex thing. The fun stops when the guy starts to act jealous (i.e. build fences). Just be your usual lovable self and before you know it, you’ve been having the friendship for years and she will finally notice how she can’t live without you.
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March 3, 2008
“how to cope with a girl breaking your heart into little pieces - I have heard advice such as go and get another girl but frankly thats the last thing you want when you’ve got a bad case of oneitis - anyone have any enlightening posts to share?”
eddy theres really nothing else you can do. theres no special technique or pill that will fix your heart, the reason to go and get someone new is for two reasons. 1) to try to get your mind off her 2) to replace that love with someone else.
advice for taking her from friend with benifits to GF, slowly start to withdraw yourself from her(seeing her less, etc) but that can also blow up in your face. So i say enjoy what you have if it blossoms cool, if it doesnt advance be happy you have something alot of ppl want to have, no commitment. you never appriciate what you got till its gone
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March 4, 2008
Yea - im sure your all right, we’ll see what happens - the only people im expressing these sentiments to are you guys so it should be fine - by the way, took your advice and had a clean shave for a change and she was absolutely ecstatic about it lol! couldn’t keep her off me - so thanks - another word of wisdom thats worked out for me. Hey one last thought - should I be further confused that she was talking about the potential qualities of “our baby” when she was drunk last night!!!
March 6, 2008
Well, Looking on the bright side… If she was excited enough to want you to talk dirty to her, she must have really been turned on!
April’s last blog post..What do you find sexy?