I get a lot of emails from guys asking how they can go about expanding their social circles. This seems to be a bigger problem for guys out of college, but many guys who commute to school have the same problem.
Today I just wanted to give you a quick list of ways you can immediately expand you social scene. Of course everything on this list requires you to be social and open to meeting people.
The trick to making friends at these kind of things is to start right away. The first day you show up at any of these events start talking to people. Don’t start with the intention of making new friends or finding a girlfriend… just make friendly conversation. The longer you wait to break the ice… the harder it will get.
21 Ways to Expand Your Social Scene
- Join a young professionals organization
- Take a yoga or meditation class
- Get a part time job waiting tables
- Join a bowling league
- Join a volley ball league
- Attend alumni events at your previous college
- Attend a weekly class at your gym
- Check out the various clubs at www.meetup.com
- Join the Toastmasters
- Take dancing lessons
- Join a volunteer organization
- Use Myspace and Facebook to network (as opposed to hit on girls)
- Teach a class on a subject you love (art, photography, computers, guitar)
- Revive the old band and start looking for gigs at local bars
- Whatever your passion is find a way to immerse yourself with people who share your interest
- Join a softball league
- Attend any networking event your job puts on (and network)
- Help with a political campaign (perfect timing)
- get a part time internship in a field you love (even if its for free)
- Scour the computer for local events, classes, seminars
- GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE
Those are just some of the many ways you can immediately begin to meet new people and expand your social scene. The key to this is to find activities that truly interest you and inspire you.
Being around people that share your interests will not only make new friends available to you… new potential girlfriends… but it will also help you grow as a person and get you closer to achieving your dreams.
In a future article I will explain how to network at these events to take full advantage of them. And to turn yourself into a Social All star.
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May 2, 2008
"Scour the computer for local events, classes, seminars"
Some of the best classes I took in college where entry level night classes (something that art or history majors would take) at a local college… group projects, happy hour before hand and easy work… deff great for socializing
May 2, 2008
Good post! It shows just how many opportunities there are staring you in the face if you just open your eyes.
My success in my 20’s was due to my ability to get involved and create social connections and not from cold approaching at bars or clubs.
Now that I’m in my 30’s I realize that working on creating social connections COMBINED with cold approaching is the best of both worlds just like having Van Halen with Sammy Haggar AND David Lee Roth.
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May 2, 2008
yeah i agree.
get the fuck out of your house.
stop jerking off to porn on the computer.
May 2, 2008
David Lee Roth is the MAN! Might as well Jump!
May 3, 2008
Right on man. There are so many different venues and opportunities out there to create and expand your social circle. It’s just a matter of getting out.
May 3, 2008
This is beyond true…I recently joined a group in my college and I now know more people. I mean, besides having fun, this (and other ways listed above) are great
May 4, 2008
Great one, I’m forwarding it around.
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May 4, 2008
my brother hasnt had too much success with the dancing lessons: the early ones are full of couples and older people, the later ones are those who are truly serious and into competitions. nobody is really into meeting new people.
on the plus side, its something he enjoys, and has learned enough to make a girl look good while she is dancing even if she never took a day of classes in her life.
its a hell of a lot of fun, and impressive to boot.
so, the moral is - even if you dont actually meet new people at these venues, you at least pick up a new skill, follow your interest, build confidence, and end up just a bit cooler than you were before.
May 4, 2008
Learn a language!! This one is great. You can meet fellow linguistic enthusiasts (who are mostly women), you can impress women by speaking another language, and it gives you a great opportunity to talk to every single women who is a native speaker of the language you are learning. I speak French and Japanese and man has it helped me!