I recently got this post from Chase Amante, of Master the Vibe. This is an absolutely essential piece of advice for the guys out there stuck in the dinner or movie dates.

There was a period of time when I was experimenting with Match.com and this was a huge problem that I kept running into. I was always meeting for coffee or drinks… having some good conversation, then we would say our goodbyes and next time we met I’d have to start from the beginning again. This article by Chase shows you how to overcome that problem.

Making one date feel like five by Chase Amante

Dinner and a movie. The classic date. And yet - it’s RUBBISH.

And a lot of guys fumble around trying to figure out a good date and fall back on this one, due to lack of planning, lack of creativity, or some assorted grab-bag mix thereof.

Let’s have a chat so you can avoid that trap… and do 1000x better.

Here’s a little secret about how we form memories: Variety is KING. Remember that. Write it down, repeat it twenty-five times, whatever you need to do to make it stick.

Variety is KING.

It’s true about everything in your interactions with women: the more emotions she feels around you, the stronger an impression you’ll make. The more interesting things she learns about you and tells you about herself, the more deeply she’ll feel connected to you.

And the more places she visits and things she does and sees with you, the longer she’ll feel she’s known you.

When you’re putting together a date, you want to pack a bunch of different things in without making it seem rushed, hurried, or disorienting. So there must be a natural progression. Ultimately, you want your girl to come with you on a handful of different adventures, and enjoy several disparate activities.

Why? Because she’ll feel like she’s known you longer and has more shared experiences with you than if you’d just gone to dinner and a movie. So what makes that a good thing?

Because, in general, the longer a woman who is attracted to you has known you, the more inclined she will be to acting on that attraction and go further with you into the bedroom and into relationships.

Human brains are wired to make us cautious of certain things. For women, getting too close to a guy too fast can set off warning alarms. If a woman sleeps with the wrong man, she risks 1) mating with a man they haven’t fully vetted for strength/weakness, 2) being judged as “easy” by both the man in question and their peer group. Both are STRONG disincentives to a woman to getting together too quickly with a guy she’s just met.

But really - it’s less about TIME and more about MEMORIES. Sharing more experiences in a shorter amount of time makes a closer, deeper connection.

Your woman gets to see you in a variety of contexts, how you act and react in a variety of setting, rather than the usual one or two of most dates - as well as giving the two of you a slew of shared experiences that can easily be substituted for spending more time together.

In other words, it’s not the AMOUNT of time you spend together. It’s the QUALITY of it.

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