Over time I’ve been seeing some common attributes, threads and patterns that have been happening… and a few problems that guys on our bootcamps seem to be having when they first start gaming… they find it hard to shift their frame based on the woman; this is a complex dynamic calibration, and comes from being able to see the overall fabric of game.
A lot of guys misunderstand this kind of frame-control, and how to shift frame-control in real time.
The problem is that the girls we meet and interact with are not one and the same. Far from it… they each have different tastes, attitudes, and life-experiences. To put it another way, they respond better to a well-calibrated frame, rather than a ‘one-size-fits-all’ approach…
So in short, you need to be perfectly calibrated. You need to know exactly what is going on with any particular woman at any given moment.
Like yesterday I street-kissed an Italian HB9, and it wasn’t because I used some advanced routines on her, it was because I could intuitively feel the multi-layers of her frame…
Street Kid Alex: When you woke up this morning, I bet you didn’t think this was going to happen… (I lean in to kiss her)
Italian HB: (smiling) No… On Tuesday I’ll kiss you… (trying to control the frame by making plans to meet me another day)
Street Kid Alex: Not a problem, I’ll just not call you (frame control)
Italian HB: You’re not going to call me… (she looked upset)
Street Kid Alex: I might. But only because that cute innocent face hides a smile that says… ‘wow I really shouldn’t have let myself get so turned on with someone I barely know on the street.’ (recapturing my original frame)
Italian HB: (laughs and goes red) Are you going to kiss me? (playing the role I have now given her)
Street Kid Alex: (pull her in and kiss her) I might
This is the seemingly elusive calibration that I’m talking about. The idea is to enjoy sparring with her, and to generate a sexual vibe…
This microcalibration is essentially the art of shifting between comfort building and rapport breaking until you are comfortable enough to ratchet up physical escalation.
But you have to offer her some kind of value for this to work…
It’s better if you don’t pretend to be high value… through the hard work and effort you put in, you will BE high value.
You can practise this through maintaining solid frames and massive qualification…
Street Kid Alex: Hey, that really doesn’t impress me, your Dolce&Gabbana bracelet and your designer clothes… (said playfully)
HB10: It’s my life… I don’t care what you think…
Street Kid Alex: You’re right, you shouldn’t care what I think… it’s rare to meet tough-minded women these days. I actually respect that… (ironically, she will now start to care about what I think, because I have showed dominance over her world, and thus higher value)
I could feel the depth of her personality, and rapidly augmented my seduction accordingly. She was a difficult woman, but I knew which part of her emotional mind I needed to play, and I seduced her based on that… because if you want to truly augment an even higher success rate, you will have to emotionally calibrate as well. This is where you start to feel what she is feeling instinctively… and once you practise doing this, it’s game over for her!
Hope this helps guys!
Street Kid Alex
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May 16, 2008
Very sound tips, and great examples.
May 16, 2008
Bobby Rio’s last blog post..MAN PERIOD! Do you suffer from manstruation?
May 19, 2008
Calibration is one of the hardest parts of the game to learn. In fact, you can’t learn it from a book. You can’t even fully understand it from a book. This is one area of game (in fact life in general) that just takes practice and experience - and sometimes some guts to say something you wouldn’t dared say in AFC land (that part does come from learning lines and routines, to begin with).
Something important to my mind is this: Nature plays a part too. Sometimes you talk to a girl and the playful vibe just seems to appear within seconds. That is she is laughing and leaning into you and touching you etc. You calibrate very naturally and so does she, with little concious effort or manipulation on your part. This means you are by nature on the same wavelength and when that happens its really cool - cherish it - because you know that you have the potential ,at the very least, to have a lot of fun and time for each other. I came into the game looking for more and better sexual/romantic relationships (which I have), but actually one thing it has taught me is to actually just to relate better to people and have women attracted to me and just get on with them better in general, as friends, too.
May 22, 2008
Thank you Alex. Helpful practical advice and…
This article opened my eyes to the fact that there is a science to calibration and reminded me of a class I took in college. The class was titled something like, "Personal and Career Exploration". We took personality tests and did other personal exploration to find a subject and career path that would best suit our personalities. I was not entirely amazed to find out that many scientists believe there are 16 archetypes of personality. (Obviously this is a generalization but so is nearly everything we study)
Regarding Alex’s article, the last chick that was like, "I don’t care what you think this is my life," would fit into one of the 16 categories. Her response would at least narrow it down (though it could just be an emotional state) and the PUA now can narrow his response and path to take her. Alex may not think of it this way…he just intuitively knew what to say based off of his years of experience. But another girl might have said, "What!? Why not??" and Alex would have interpreted her response, calibrated, and responded accordingly. (I’m kind of regurgitating what he said)
The long and the short of my lightbulb: I believe one day some crazy social scientist will blow the doors open on seduction, etc. How long have relative amateurs been studying this subject?? Just wait until Harvard or some think tank does serious research…it may never happen but the possibilities are endless.
However, this "unlocking" of personalities and "in set calibration" is just oneside of the coin…it doesn’t unlock the secret to solid inner game.
Thanks again Alex!